the story doesn't end here with an apology and an admittance to my showing him mercy. i indeed did both, apologize and told him i was sincerely sorry for not extending him the same mercy i give to everyone else, even the loved ones who have continued to hurt me so deeply.
the point my dear Father God was making to me and i hope this will speak to some of you is that we will be so quick to forgive our church friends, extended family and even immediate family, but are we offering that same mercy and forgiveness to our spouses???
the very ones we live with sometimes are the ones we take most for granted. we should not only offer them mercy and forgiveness freely, but how about even going a step further. offer to pay their debts like paul did for onesimus to philemon. (philemon 1:17-18) paul says to philemon, "if he(onesimus,phil's runaway slave)has wronged you or owes anything, put that on my account...i will repay. paul is willing to repay onesimus' debt like Jesus took on our offenses without deserving any of them.
take it home darling; remove you, remember Christ and receive His blessings for doing what is right(whether you feel like it or not). God bless you in your obedience.